When my wife and I married seventeen years ago, our eight grandparents attended the wedding on a warm May evening. A picture of them together stands as one of our most treasured memories from that special day. What is even more special, however, is that five of them remain with us today and our children have grown up knowing them well. The years have not passed, though, without some very difficult discussions and decisions about their well-being, medical care, and other plans if and when they need additional attention. In the last several weeks alone, I have advised my parents and in-laws concerning matters with their parents, and I sat with neighbors around their dining room table to consider alternatives for their aged mother. Many of you know what hard talks these can be with family members and other special people in our lives. Often, we delay speaking until a problem arises that forces us to face a reality- that there will probably come a time when our loved one’s health will not improve or when they cannot take care of themselves any longer. What then?
This month we celebrate National Health Decisions Day and as a family physician, I encourage you to take several actions to insure that you and your family have communicated your wishes with one another throughout various life stages. As a doctor who cares for many seriously ill patients, I cannot tell you how important these discussions are for the peace of everyone involved in a person’s life. First, please identify a health care power of attorney for yourself and ask other adult members in the family to do the same. A local attorney can help you with this and other advance directives that may be helpful as well. Second, when you are diagnosed with a medical condition that you will live with for the rest of your life, please establish and maintain good communication with your primary care physician through the years. This step will insure appropriate care is provided no matter how long you live with the condition as you continue efforts to cure the malady. Finally, when a disease process becomes overwhelming or when care needs are extraordinary in a person who is nearing the end of life, consider the appropriateness of more direct palliative care in discussions with your doctor. Goals to relieve pain and suffering, while honoring patient wishes and dignity, are a hallmark of this care.
Additionally, we are very pleased that the start of the South Carolina Physicians Order for Scope of Treatment (SC POST) pilot study coincides with NHDD this year. Our state coalition has worked long and hard to insure that all seriously ill patients in South Carolina and their families have an active voice in their health decisions and communicate these wishes with their physicians and other providers. I hope you will help join us in this effort by taking the action steps suggested so that we can deliver the best care to our most vulnerable patients.